Friday, October 09, 2009

The Anti-Hate Blogger Gang

I just wanted to take a moment to thank you all for your unbelievably wonderful comments on my anonymous jerk commenters post, and to the people who reached out to me via email as well. It's clear to me that the lovers outweigh the haters, and I should keep this in mind more often. But what is such a bummer is that a lot of people shared their own experience of dealing with mean, hateful people on their own blogs, and that really gets my blood boiling. If someone does not like what we post about, or for some reason doesn't like us as bloggers, then they have this amazing ability to just click away. There is a BIG difference between constructive criticism and hateful commenting. I will be the first to admit that sometimes I read a blog post and respond IN MY HEAD something snarky and mean, but do I comment it? No. But clearly some people do not have this kind of self control. Or maybe they forget that we too are people behind these blogs, not just text and pretty pictures on a page.

So this is why we need our blogger gang, and with your suggestions I decided we will look like something that's a cross between these:





We will be the Anti-Hate Blogger Gang and we will kick the asses of all mean anonymous commenters. This gang also works for those of you who are pacifists, since we can't actually locate anonymous commenters and we would probably be arrested if we did (and we shouldn't hurt people?) Now, if you would like to let people who comment know that you are part of this gang, you can change your comment form text to include a message that says something along the lines of "I am a member of the The Anti-Hate Blogger Gang, and leaving anonymous, hateful comments is not allowed. Please be nice."

If you would like to do this on blogger, go to your settings, go to "comments" and there is a box called "Comment Form Message" where you can enter something in. I don't use other blogging programs, so if those of you who do know how you can do this on them, like Typepad and Wordpress, please comment and let us know! Much appreciated. Or, you could just put this text on your sidebar somewhere. I'm not a blog tech wizard outside of Blogger so I can't help you outside of those templates.

There is no initiation to get into the gang, you just have to virtually pinky swear me that you have never left an anonymous mean comment on a blog. Ok?

UPDATE: OMG, awesome awesome awesome Kim has designed our gang logos!! I wanted to do this but I didn't have time, so she gets some mad props for this. I love the brass knuckles one:


http://www.thehavingfunclub.org/antihatebloggergang.gif
(This one is supposed to be the Blogger logo altered as brass knuckles)

http://www.thehavingfunclub.org/antihatebloggergang2.gif
(For bloggers not using Blogger :)

52 Comments:

Blogger Nidhi said...

love it...love the photos for The Anti-Hate Blogger Gang :) :)

3:18 PM  
Blogger Kelly said...

done! and now if it's possible i heart you even more :)

xo
kelly

3:19 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

thanks kate - haha blog gang, so tough!

3:22 PM  
Anonymous yulanda said...

You are awesome. :)
xo.

3:35 PM  
Blogger tfh. said...

Deal!

3:35 PM  
Blogger Celebration Anniversary Gym said...

I cant believe anyone would send YOU hate blog comments. You seem so sweet! I'm in.

3:47 PM  
Blogger DTDorrin said...

Love it! And I got a good chuckle over the screen shot from Anchorman--that's my favorite scene! It's amazing to me how hateful people can be over blogs (and everything else, really). Don't let the haters get you down! :-)

3:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You go girl!

3:58 PM  
Blogger Eric said...

Ok, but I get to be Rizzo!

4:09 PM  
Anonymous Kim said...

Hi Kate!

I know I already left a comment on your other post, but I felt so inspired by your speaking out against hateful commenters that I took a few minutes to make a couple badges people could use on their blogs.

They aren't anything too fancy, but they WILL get the message across!

http://www.thehavingfunclub.org/antihatebloggergang.gif (This one is supposed to be the Blogger logo altered as brass knuckles)

http://www.thehavingfunclub.org/antihatebloggergang2.gif (For bloggers not using Blogger :)

GO TEAM!

4:10 PM  
Blogger jenny gordy said...

you might be overlooking an important gang that could be useful for our look. have you seen the movie "the warriors"? oh, wait, that gang didn't wear shirts, just vests. and we are girls. just add that to the list of police charges against the gang. bad idea. : )

i pinky swear!

4:10 PM  
Blogger theindigobunting said...

Love it, Kate. Count me in.

4:33 PM  
Blogger Capree said...

I've never left a mean comment - I pinky swear, Kate! :D

So excited to be part of TAHBG!

4:39 PM  
Anonymous Vanessa said...

Um, can I please be in your gang? I know my freckles make me look young and helpless, but I can be really tough when I need to be.

4:44 PM  
Blogger House of Milk said...

thank you so much for doing this, what a great idea! i've always been a irked by seeing salty little comments, so i will happily join the gang. and i pinky swear, too :)

ps. kim is amazing and the logo is definitely going on my blog!

4:49 PM  
Blogger alyson. said...

la la looooooove it.

4:49 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

love it, love it, love it.

i put the gang logo on my sidebar - thanks kim!

4:58 PM  
Anonymous lillie said...

Ha, yes! Love the gang, the inspirational photos, and Kim's symbol. It is SUCH a bummer that anyone wastes their energy with hater comments. Cheers to the anti-hate gang!

5:02 PM  
Blogger Leanne Muir said...

You're hilarious and your blog is the best.

5:08 PM  
Blogger Billy said...

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5:26 PM  
Blogger Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic said...

haters can be so tacky/ugly! I love this concept! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!

5:29 PM  
Blogger JanelleGrace said...

What a great idea. I'll pinky promise and I'll be a part. Hate is such a waste of time.

5:30 PM  
Blogger nicole addison said...

hey there! i clicked on your blog completely randomly.. i dont even know how i winded up here but obviously this is meant to be! im totally posting this on my blog what a brilliant and wonderful idea! and kuddos to the lady who came up wtih the logo :) so sorry you had to deal with an ann. hater..i've had one and im sure there are more to come!

6:03 PM  
Blogger Renee (eatliveshop.com) said...

haha this is AMAZING!! i'm in!! i don't have many people commenting on my blog yet but i'm hoping i will in the near future! i'll be ready for the meanies though! xo

6:21 PM  
Blogger katrina said...

this is so great!
i've had my share of mean anonymous comments, they are very discouraging. i am happy to be a part of this gang!

6:38 PM  
Blogger Pip Lincolne said...

I would like to be a member of The Anti-Hate Blogger Gang. I will always be nice and promise to bring good snacks and fancy drinks to the Club House. xx

6:55 PM  
Blogger Little Gray Pixel said...

This post made me LOL. Thanks! Do we get our choice of pink satin jacket, polyester blazer or members-only jacket with membership? ;-)

8:02 PM  
Blogger Megan said...

I'm totally in! When can we get our gang tats?!

8:16 PM  
Blogger becka said...

Love it! MJ and The Pink Ladies, could it get any better?

I pinky swear!

8:47 PM  
Anonymous sweet fine day/Jenna said...

OMG, I love you for this. And for putting up a reference for what we might look like (Yes! MJ Bad era, doin' slick west-side story dance moves in the train station). I just survived a round of hate comments myself, so I'm with you. All. The. Way.

8:50 PM  
OpenID habitual said...

Who on earth would leave YOU a hateful comment? Good grief!

I don't think I've ever left a hateful comment anywhere, that's not my style. So, I pinky swear - no problemo.

Once someone left a funny-but-hateful comment on my blog about someone else (mentioned them by name!) and I edited it out because I was embarrassed- for the jerk that left the comment.

Good for you for turning your hate comment experience into something fun and positive!

9:01 PM  
Blogger Midtown Girl said...

Count me in! Love this post & you are right, if your thoughts are not nice, just keep to yourself - you're allowed to think what you want but nasty comments are unnecessary!

XOXO
Amy

9:43 PM  
Blogger superchance said...

I LOVE your idea and am all for it!!!! Kudos to you :-) I totally am in--- there is are ENOUGH BIG MEANIES in the world ( bet you can't tell I have been babysitting my nieces a lot lately)... maybe we should all get pink jackets like the Pink Ladies hahah !! Keep On Blogging...

10:13 PM  
Blogger amanda james said...

wow, this is so amazing! i did it on my blog too. so, have a nice weekend and happy birthday!!!

9:16 AM  
Blogger kristi said...

happy happy birthday! and i'm totally putting this on my blog.

2:42 PM  
Anonymous Laura. said...

this is funny. a good response to the meanies (seriously, people, what the eff? are we still in junior high?!). your bouncing right back with positive is exactly the right thing, and shows that you have integrity even in the face of those that don't. so argh!/good for you!

6:14 PM  
Blogger EvaForeva said...

What a cool idea! Kim, you are amazing! I love those logos!

Kate, happy upcoming b-day!

10:37 PM  
Blogger *gemmifer* said...

This is the best idea! Seriously, I don't understand why people don't just click away from a blog if they don't like what's on it. And it seems like so much of what they feel the need to snark about is relatively tame and uncontroversial. Maybe they're just a bunch of crankypants (my nickname for my friends' kids when they're being grumpy) and feel the need to spread the gloom.

I looove the Blogger-based logo that Kim designed. I will definitely figure out how to add it to my blog, along with your well-phrased comment form message. Now let's get out there and kick some blogger-hating ass!

1:16 AM  
Blogger Dennise said...

I'm in! I'm so glad that you started this. My blog is read by maybe 4 people on a good day so I'm immune to blog haters but it unfuriates me to see cowardly anonymous commenters put down a blogger that I admire greatly like you. Let's stop the hate!

9:42 PM  
Blogger Megan said...

I think you should totally add "Don't Hate" to the bottom of the logo...or maybe that's just me that thinks that's funny...and happy belated birthday! Hope it was lovely!

12:21 AM  
Blogger Billy said...

You're brilliant. And your blog is adorable.

Count me in <3

2:20 AM  
Blogger Sarah said...

This seriously rocks! I love the logos! I absolutely do not understand why some people don't understand the concept of: "If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.".

Hope you had a happy birthday and are feeling better today!

9:02 AM  
Blogger Amanda said...

Yep, just added that to my comment message :) I'm in a gang yay!

2:12 PM  
Blogger Hello Lindello said...

no way! this is too awesome. I love the brass knuckles logo.

3:27 PM  
Blogger flirtatious baker said...

oooo! An Anti-Hate Blogger Gang, I am so in!

7:22 PM  
Blogger erin said...

I can totally appreciate and relate! I have been getting nasty comments and hate emails via my blog- they're cowards, these haters!

1:04 PM  
Blogger Stella said...

FANTASTIC idea!!! Anti-hate!!!

5:22 PM  
Blogger lesley [smidgebox] said...

this is awesome! i love your idea, think it's wonderful, and especially love the pictures, they rock. i could never understand people who hide behind their anonymous comments and say rude, nasty + judgmental things about people in their happy place. thanks for speaking out!

5:49 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

I absolutely love this! I just had the meanest anonymous commenter go on a spree of terrible commenting on my blog Monday, so this couldn't come at a better time. I'm adding it to my blog right now.

11:26 PM  
Blogger me melodia said...

I love this.
You have a really specially little nook here in the internets.
I adore your blog.

9:23 AM  
Blogger thea said...

Oh yes. now we have a gang we can karate-chop the haters right back to their google homepages. Take THAT!~ and THAT!!!

thea.
xx


(www.forthevisionaries.tumblr.com)

8:04 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

i love this idea. love it!
: )

7:24 PM  

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