Girls
I’ve never been one to have a group of lady friends. I think junior high was the last time I had a group of girlfriends that I hung out with as a group. I’m more of a serial best friender – wherever I move or whatever phase of my life I enter I end up making a really good friend that I do most things with, or have a few different people that I do specific things with. Or honestly, a serial monogamist who hangs out with her boyfriend all the time. But one of the best things that has contributed to me loving LA so much lately is that for the first time in ages, I have a group of lady friends I hang out with, thanks to the blog world. It’s an interesting situation that I sometimes stumble with, like how many times is it ok to hang out with them versus Will in a week? How do I hang out with just one or two of them? The dumbest questions arise due to my inexperience, and it’s funny, like I’m back in college or something. But awesome. You know who you ladies are, thank you for making my life even better than before. And for slowly letting me take your pictures more often.
Have a lovely weekend, to all my friends. An exciting tutorial is coming Monday, so be sure to check back.
Photo by Kate Miss, taken with a Mamiya 645 with Kodak Portra 160 film
June 8th, 2012 at 9:34 am
I’ve been lucky to always have an incredible group of girlfriends and I think you will love your foray into roaming with a pack of cool ladies :)
It was actually strange to realise at one point, as we got older and boyfriends and guy friends started joining the group, how much I missed hanging out with just girls– having an all girls party reminded me how fun it can be! http://www.clevernettle.com/rachabees/2012/02/crystal-visions-ii-leather-lace/
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June 8th, 2012 at 9:34 am
aww, i’m so jealous! i haven’t had that since right after college. i have a pack of dude best friends but dudes are NOT girl best friends. i miss those conversations you can only have with ladies — you’re so lucky to have that! (and i LOVE that picture!)
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June 8th, 2012 at 10:47 am
It totally feels like you are dating them in the beginning huh? I have accepted that- like should I call, or shouldn’t I? At this point I just have fun with it! It’s the best to have girlfriends!
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June 8th, 2012 at 1:14 pm
oh, this makes me long for some high-school-worthy gal pals! i feel like all the ladies i meet now are only into one-on-ones, which makes sleepover parties non-existent. sigh.
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June 8th, 2012 at 1:22 pm
it is so nice to have a good group of girl friends. In college I was in a sorority, and never without a large group of women, but I’ve found that more recently a smaller group is a little better (at least for me). So glad that you’ve found a good group!
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June 8th, 2012 at 4:05 pm
I think I would die with out my lady pals. Even though we are scattered through out the world, with moves and life changes, they are still as close to me as ever. Something they can offer men can’t, understanding on so many different levels. I’m glad you found a group, so many happy times ahead for you.
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June 8th, 2012 at 6:19 pm
so rad! So important to have tight friendships with girls. Hope they all love each other too so there’s no draaammma.
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June 8th, 2012 at 6:54 pm
I am so like that!! I moved to LA about a year ago and I am slowly making friends, but I do always tend to move towards one friend in each place I live. It’s great that you’ve met a lovely group!
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June 8th, 2012 at 8:08 pm
I here you on this one. I am so awkward with friends sometimes. I dont know how they put up with me!
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June 9th, 2012 at 5:16 am
I completely identified with what you wrote, Kate. I too am a serial best friender (thanks for the cool term :) )
I have been very close with one person for two-three years, but then we either end up drifting away or having some kind of falling out. I’ve not experienced the boyfriend part, though. I find that a friendship with a boy has less drama (unless, you have a gay best friend like I currently do, then you’ll probably have a lot more drama). But it’s inherently easier to start conversations with girls & bond. I’m so happy for you & your group of friends. :)
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June 9th, 2012 at 3:44 pm
ah you’re so lucky! a group of girlfriends is what I really need nowadays. It is so hard to make good ties with people that you just meet, it takes time, but once you have it, you should really appreciate it, (as you do). lucky girls! :)
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June 9th, 2012 at 11:30 pm
aww, cute post dude!! my pack never gets bigger than 3-4, kinda perf size if you ask me :)
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June 10th, 2012 at 1:52 am
That’s great Kate! I can relate to what you write. You are an inspiration!
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June 10th, 2012 at 8:48 am
This is a lovely post. I so wish I had a group of great girl friends to hang out with. I lived in London for years and now I live by the sea with my husband and for whatever reason I only see my friends if I make the effort to go into London. They don’t feel the need to leave the city. It can be lonely here by myself so it’s great to hear that it’s not impossible to forge a great group of friends when you move. Problem is I’m too shy and socially awkward! How did you do it, making friends in a new place, starting from scratch?
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June 11th, 2012 at 11:17 am
this is such a great (small) reflection on friends who are girls. i am the same – have few girls who are close friends, and am still trying to navigate my way around the girl world. i think that someone best described to me your perfect balance – if you want to do it, do it. i’ve started to think like that with dating, and i so see the girl world of friends as a similar playing field. hang out with who you want to hang out with, and spend time with those people when you want to. that way they know the real you, AND you get to do what makes you most happy!
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June 12th, 2012 at 10:45 pm
Awwwwwww.
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June 16th, 2012 at 2:30 pm
I completely understand this one! I have a group of female friends that I’ve not really had before… and the silliest things come to mind about them vs Liam, my partner. Oh well. Good lady friends are hard to come by, and they can make life so very happy.
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June 19th, 2012 at 12:51 am
Cute.
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